How do you deal with an ex when you have to see them a lot?

Hi there. It's been about a month since our break up but we see each other, through work, now and then. It's civil.





I still feel awkward. And this is the bad part...I start thinking about him again every time I see him. I wish I could go weeks (years, decades) without seeing him.





Have you ever had to deal with an ex (through work, school, whatever) and, if so, how did you survive that?





And is it stupid I want to lose 10 pounds and buy a new wardrobe?! Because I so do!How do you deal with an ex when you have to see them a lot?
Yeah, what you should do is stop trying to think about him. That may not work because he's been a part of your life for such a long time. You can't just throw him out just like that. So whenever your mind drifts to the subject just push it away. Slowly itll drift in your mind less and less and you'll move on, totally forgetting him. Someone else will fill in the gap, the space which he was taking up. Good luck! I have faith in you! xDHow do you deal with an ex when you have to see them a lot?
That sucks especially if you still have feelings for him. Best thing to do is act like he doesn't even matter yesterdays old news. As far a the 10lbs why not, if you need to of course. It will make you feel better about yourself and a new wardrobe always makes a girl feel better. In high school when I had to see an ex I just made it real simple and monotone. He what's up nice seeing you , gotta go, see ya later, but no further. Usually they pursued me again it is the forbidden thing I think and the fact your not rolling over crying on the floor.lol
Yeah seeing any of my ex bf's is really awkward, especially when I have a class with them. The best thing for me to do is just try to ignore them, and make it look like I'm having the best time of my life. Just try to go about your life the best you can, or try to find someone new to get your mind off him.
Yes I had to deal with it. For me, it was too much to handle, so I quit my job. The wanting to lose 10 lbs. and buying a new wardrobe is a by-product of seeing him. You want to ';make him want you';.
try not to make it awkward.





ask him about himself but dont make it too personal.


rather then making it seem like you miss him alot make it seem like you're totally over it and dont mind talking to him.





once you get in the habit of talking to him / seeing him you're get alot more comfortable and it will get easier i promise.





i went through the same thing
omg yes !


i had to see him every day at school


i had to see him have other girlfriends


%26amp; i asked him way he had so many in like one week


%26amp; he said it kept his mind of of mee .


%26amp; that was last june that we went out %26amp; he still likes me


but anyways i did survive it was hard but i did .


hope everything works out = ]


but im shure it will .
Yeah, I just acted civil like you are - say Hi, be polite, but don't go out of your way to be around them.





As for losing ten pounds and buying a new wardrobe... as long as you're doing it to make yourself feel good (and not JUST to make him see how much better off you are without him), then go for it!
yeh i get what u mean i had to see an x everyday at school for months and i didnt wanna get back together but everytime i saw em it made me think hmm mayb we should





anyway just cause a huge argument and then they wont spk to u wont spk to them and u will avoid each other, then when ur over him just b e like im really osrry bout the argument i was in a bad place can we be friends worked for me
pop pills, jk.





If I had to see my dipstick Stbe husband Id beat him with a baseball bat.





If you want to get back with him just remember why ya'll broke up and if you can deal with that problem if you get back together. Most of the time, experts said anyways, that it doesnt work the 2nd time around unless both people fixed what went wrong the first time.
you kill the bastard!!





or, you could still be in-love with him..


confront him, tell him that you really want to get over him, and to do that, you need to see less of him, he may be offended, but soon he shall understand.. and he will try and avoid you..





and if you are really serious... find a new job.
How do you deal? You just deal. Is it ';stupid'; that you want to look attractive to him even though you're not together anymore? No, it's typical. Everything you're describing is fairly typical. You're going to continue to feel this way probably until you find someone else.
well i am recently divorced for about 5 months now. we have 3 kids together but rarely see each other( 3rd party). but lately we have been talking and I now think that we will be getting back together. so I guess thats how I dealt with it. We are gonna give it another shot and yes it does feel awkward. but we are gonna try and work thru it.
i bet you dont need to lose 10 pounds!!





yeah,thats happened to me,the day after he dumped me i saw him outside a shop.and then my mate had a go at me for being moody.at least my other mate was understanding...





just try to ignore him if you see him around.just think of him as a guy,no-one special.





you'll get over him eventually,dont worry :)
youre just gunna have to ut up with it and maybe someday you can learn to ignore him and the way he gets to you. just dont try and think of him as what u did before or when u guys broke up just pretend he's a stranger.
Well obviously you cant get rid of him. Just try to be friendly and be friends. That's about all you can do, or you can cope with it.


And go for the 10 pounds and buy a new wardrobe! WOO!
Nope, never had to deal with anything like that. Once it's over, it's over. Sounds like you are wanting him back and want to lose weight so that maybe he would want you back.
dating someone at work is the worst thing to do. well you will have to get over it. find another bf and it will go away, it just takes time
why is it stupid to want to lose weight... and buy new clothes?








about the ex... don't let it get to you.... just because you see the ex... doesn't mean you have to talk to the ex.
A duel. ';This place isn't big enough for the both of us.';





Yes, you are dumb for wanting a new wardrobe. Maybe if you lost 10 lbs you would need one though.
no that's perfectly normal to feel that way, im going through the same thing at the moment. id say to just act indifferent towards them
When you say EX do you mean BOY FRIEND or Husband?





It makes a big difference.
everytime i saw mine after we broke up we ended up having lunch, which led to dinner, which led to ... never mind.





it never works out, but i still have hope
ok well id just get over it and find a different b/f and uhhh is it cuz u want to impress him? if it is then ya its stupid.
just act normal around him u can say high to him but just treat him like any other worker
you should get bak together
just deal though i laugh