How to deal with ex girlfriends?

i live in halls of residence on my university campus and became mutual friends with a couple. they broke up over christmas because she got back with her ex and me and the guy have sort of been seeing eachother. he spends most nights at mine but doesn't tell her because she would go crazy. she even bought him a valentines day card, despite the new boyfriend, and expects him to do stuff with her and for her all the time. which is partly understandable, afterall they'd been friends for 2 years. but it just gets to me that he spends so much time with her alone in her room, and is asleep in there as we speak. he tells me he doesn't love her anymore and doesn't want to get back with her. i'm scared to talk to him about it because i don't really feel as though i have a leg to stand on, its just hes at her beck and call at all times and it upsets me. am i being very pathetic? any advice how to mentally deal with this?How to deal with ex girlfriends?
That sucks dude! I think you should keep a slight distance from him for a bit...and give him time to see what he really wants, you already know what you want now its his turn. Sometimes time will reveal the answers. Hell come around cus it seems like why would he stop if hes getting the best of both worlds. you, his new thing and his ex...not fair for you or the ex.How to deal with ex girlfriends?
He's still hung up on her so i would stay clear of him till he gets over her (if she lets him)........... he would be on the rebound if he gets with you and you will be the one that ends up getting hurt.


I would stay clear if i were you........ it's too complicated.
He sounds like the one with the prob not you. Tell him to get on board with you or your moving on. You don't have to kept on the back burner. People break up all the time. But you being hurt in the meantime is not cool.
Get out of college and find a real relationship, dorms have no place for them.
No. Talk to him. That is out of order. And if this girl is yor friend talk to her about it.


Or talk to this girls boyfriend.


Maybe he feels the same as you?





Hope i helped (: xxxx
Oh, I have been here before. I would say that you should stop seeing him. Just be friends if you like, but this is one those relationships I would stay far away from. IF he is spending that amount of time with her and you are not invited and he is not telling her that you that two are together, I would run not walk to the nearest exit. This just sounds like he is playing games with both of you. And no you are not being pathetic. If you don't feel comfortable with this then just get out. I am sure there are more men on campus and you could find someone better suited to not playing games with you.
the more you worry and react to that the more problems you will have, if you make it seem like you dont care than he will want to be with you
You are the rebound? are you and her close friends? are you and him in a relationship or is it just sexual, casual sex, which it might sound bad when you think it or read it but its normal for some even though we dont like to think as ourselves as one of those folks..ask yourself those questions before you make a move, know where you stand with him, and her and her relationship with her boyfriend and ex, and see where he stands with you, they obviously are still in denial or breakup mode or maybe even hopeful of a reconciliation, ask him, ask her, then make a decision on who you want to confront first once all questions are answered and wether or not its worth it.....me personally id walk away from the whole mess, him, her, the situation...
stay friends
Give her the back o' yo pimp hand and stomp his nuts til he does what you say!
Honey, I wish I could give you a nice answer to this... but truth is, there probably isn't a nice answer to this question.





He's probably just using you so he won't get lonely. He was used to having someone around, and when relationships go bad it's hard to deal with loneliness. He might care for you a little, but it seems he's still got feelings for his ex. Boys lie sometimes to get what they want. He just wants to feel loved, and he'll take it from wherever he can get it. While he's done that, I bet you've gotten a little attached. That's one difference in boys and girls. He's probably not attached to you at all. And it sucks. I've been there.





So, given the fact that you're the rebound girl, I'd distance yourself from him. Give yourself time to ';Doh, that was a dumb thing to do?'; and feel whatever you feel from it, but don't let him hurt you anymore. No girl deserves to be second rate to ANY guy. Don't give him any rate either. You deserve much more than ';Oh, she'll do since I just got dumped.';
ok you already see whats going on here so why are you asking for help. If hes doing all this stuff and doest want to tell her hes spending the night with you then guess what?.....hes playing both of you. Dump is *** now and move on cause hes an ***. Do it now and move on with your life. Or its only gonna get worse. And plz don't believe anything when hes trying to get you not to leave him cause what he will say to you to get you to stay is all bullshit trust me. Just tell him to leave and you don't want to be with him anymore. Just say for fun... you found someone else. lol seriously though leave him.
I think you need to ask him who/what is more important to him. I think you're being naive to some things and there is no reason anymore for him to spend time alone with her. Public places would be better. If he refuses then he's not too worried about losing you so I'd kick him to the curb - either he's with you or he's not.
i had kinda the same problem, i liked this guy who had a crazy ex girlfriend who wanted him back, he told me they were done and blah blah blah. So i went with it, after awhile he started to bring her up less and now i never hear him talk about her, only when hes telling me how she tried to call him. We have been together for 8 months now and we still have problems with her, but in the end its worth it. I would stay you need to talk to him. Tell him its you or her, if hes smart he'll pick you. If not then who cares at least your not waiting around anymore for him. You really need to talk to him and stand your ground. Tell him he can't be with you if hes going to see her. It's the best thing to do. Trust me don't wait around for him. Good luck !
You shouldn't be scared to talk to him about it, and that's the only way you'll ever get it sorted out. You're not being pathetic, ex gf's like that are really, really annoying.