How would you deal with an ex-girlfriend who tells you she has a child that might be yours?

She also said at first that she never stopped loving me and wanted to be with me. I started falling in love with her again but then she shut me off like a faucet. She says now that she doesn't know if she could be with me again because I had an ex that I still had feelings for. I know I'm a fool for believing her but now I have all these feelings for her again. How am I supposed to deal with these feelings for her and be there for my child when I can't stand the sight of her and she won't let me spend time with the child unless it's in her house? I can't afford a DNA test or to take her to court. What should I do???How would you deal with an ex-girlfriend who tells you she has a child that might be yours?
..lets get a paternity test, clear this up right now! how you feel


now, makes no difference...until after the test!...do it!


...enjoy!How would you deal with an ex-girlfriend who tells you she has a child that might be yours?
go on MAURY.





isn't that what the his show was created for?
You could file the court papers yourself... however be really sure you want to do that. You need DNA to establish paternity and DNA will start child support.





If you just all ';Touchy Feely'; decide to accept the child as your (and this will happen someday), you will come to realize that the financial burden you took on is preventing you from doing something and you will start to regret that choice and then in the back of your mind you will begin to say ';for a child that my not be mine';...





You will become angry and you may begin to resent the child for your choice and that is not fair to the child, get the DNA and know if the child is yours.





I have seen this play out quite a few times, so trust me on this... I can help you with the paperwork if that is what you want.
first of all she can NOT decide that you will ONLY see the kid on Her terms. A judge will do that if you step up and take man hood for the child!(responsibility) Second,a DNA test can be given through your local government for nothing. The State will happily DNA test you after child birth to keep from having to pay government money if you test pos.


You need to tell her,if and when the baby comes,I will be here for MY child,not us. You will not intimated me nor will you isolate my baby from me. DUDE step up and love that baby...if its yours. NEVER walk away from a child that never asked to be born :(
Consider that again as crap and forget her and move forward with life. Think hard of why she is saying you all that. Maybe she needs somethng more on that pretext. Forget her and move forward with your life
Do you realize that your muddled feelings for her that you might or might not have are not the most important issue here? The most important issue, if you need to be told, is that you might be a father. Get that DNA test, no matter what. You need to know if this is really your child, and if it is, you need to face up to your responsibilities as a parent. No matter how difficult getting along with your ex might be. You owe it to your child (if it is indeed your child) to make that effort.
Does she want money assistance only, then give it to her, and go to court, seet rights, if it is your chld, she can't do much, if you are a respectable man. Time you spend with your child, is much more precious than hating her. Waste your time loving your child, don't waste it by thinking of someone who does'nt reallly care (Otherwise she wouldn't be puting her own child through this).





Love is not a faucet, that turn on and off at will, she is the one needing a shrink, because of her insecuriety (However, the question is, who left whom and why, in the first place). Did you call of the relationship and had a new girl, than when she insisted she had your child, you started falling in love with the IDEA that you love her., but were attaced to your recent girlfriend emotionaly. and she could see that clearly, that it was only for the child's sake. Falling in and out of love , of one person, to another and than back again, not possible, it's fickle. and Fickleness is not associated with true enduring love.
Dont believe it..it could be the milk mans..the courts have free legal counsel, etc...but u have to look into it and let them know you need it..u can get a paternity test through the court for very cheap...u will be stuck with child support for 18 years unless u make sure its yours..you dont want to pay for another mans child....DO YOU???
Okay, this baby mama drama is ridiculous and I've seen, heard and experienced this scenario before many a times!!!





Where are you from? Laws are different in every state and maybe the DNA might be free in some and cost in others. Get this done immediately!!! Now, I can't solve your financial situation-only you can do that yourself, you know what you're working with.





You need to go to court and establish paternity, before she does, because you don't know what she's going to do. Yes, visitation is another matter, that you're going to have to bring up to the judge. Get yourself a yearly planner from Staples or Office Depot, I call them the red books that say yearly diary with the year. Start documenting what you're doing on your end, save correspondence, check stubs/money orders that you're giving money to her for the baby. Visits also, if you notice any injuries, take pictures, what did you do-medical attention and if there's witnesses who can vouch for you, etc. No matter what, please don't let your ex, her family and friends know what you're doing. The same goes for your family and friends as well. Why are you going to add more fuel to the fire for? You keep those notes to yourself. Yes, save all love letters from her, in the event she says something different.





Legal help? Inquire with the state bar for any public interest groups that might be able to help you out in your predictament and lastly, you need to keep your nose/butt clean. I don't know what your personality's like, but if you're also cheating and possibly procreating, that's not good for your character either. Again, you need to finally once and for all, deal with these emotions that you have towards this gal and either move on with your life or continue in this cycle, it's your choice.





I'm typing to you from Los Angeles. Good luck. This record will serve you well later on down the road with your mind intact and sanity, in the event you have to go thru some changes in your situation. Just be truthful, that's my advice to you.
okk i really cant answer this question u r really in a big prob but i cant give u any suggestions coz i'm too young a gal for this but i'm sure everything will be fine coz there is light after darkness


i know this statement is too old and small to cool ur heart but this statement can do wonders


anyways i'll surely pray for u god bless u
i think you need to get a DNA test so yoy know if it is yours. it is not fair on you or the baby or another guy if it is not urs. I suggest you find the money to be able to do it to put you at rest and deal with the results asap
Has she received assistance from the state? (food stamps, cash, medical assistance) Your state may require a DNA test if she does. You may also qualify for assistance to get joint custody and/or visitation rights. Call your local social service office and see if they may be able to point you int he right direction. Good luck.
A DNA test will be a lot cheaper than court. Find a way, but be nice about it. If it's yours, that's a whole new level of questions you and her will have to deal with. If it's not, you need to know. If you don't find out, the question will always be in the back of your mind - that's not good for you, or the baby.
I think it's a ploy by a disturbed woman...oldest ploy in the world....make her prove it....a kid is the worst reason in the world to ';glue'; a bad relationship together.....move on......if she proves this then support the child and do the right thing for the kid......ditch her.....she plays mind games.....
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