How to deal with and ex without hurting the kids?

So your ex is thousands of dollars behind on child support


Spends little to no time with his child and then offers to SELL the child a laptop!


What would you do


And how would you do it without hurting your child in the process.How to deal with and ex without hurting the kids?
CALL THE POLICE AND HAVE HIM BUSTEDHow to deal with and ex without hurting the kids?
Unfortunately, if you and your ex arent on good terms, there is no way that the child will not get caught in the crossfire. The children are always the ones that suffer.


The best way to minimize the damage is to make sure that any and all conversations go through you then directly through the child.


ANY man who woudl SELL his child anything, especially when they dont do shyt or pay shyt in the first place is a dead ringer for Loser Dad of the Year.. You got yourself a winner.. !! however, at this point, you should do everything in your power to minimize the pain the kids will suffer, seeing as though they are already suffering with him not being a constant, upstanding, honorable, morally just dad that kids can look up to!! I wouldnt set them up for more disappointment then they are already going through. It is your job as a parent, mother and adult figure to Protect those children from as much harm as you can. And you should protect them at all cost, even if that means protecting them from they're dead beat dad!!
I would tell him to go and leave you and your child alone and to stay out of the child's life, if he's not paying child support it will be no different. My friends dad left her and her mom and he is in Mexico. HEr family had been looking for her for my friend, and they found him, but they didn't tell her until they knew he wanted to be a part of her life, but her cousin told her that they had found him. If he really wants to e a part of the child's life, after he (the father) grows up let him. you might also wait even if he wants to keep in touch, let your child grow up some before they hang out or something without your supervision.
there is no way around not hurting the kids, they already feel the tension and stress in the home. So to deal with the ex get the courts/legal services involved check the yellow pages for this service. Right now you really need those child support payments to made regularly and if your ex proves to be a fit father visitation rights will be set up.
Eventually the children will see the truth. Try not to say anything bad about the other parent in front of them. The child support will catch up with him. Take one day at a time and love your children enough for both of you and they will remember and appreciate everything.
Anything you do to try to get back at him, which is what it sounds like you mean, would hurt the kids. Take a higher road than that. Think of them first. How would it be if they found out you had done something to ';deal'; with him? Deal with getting the support paid.
Just take the ex to court with your proof that he hasnt been paying the court ordered child support.





They will start taking it out of his paycheck automatically - buy your child a laptop with the money you start receiving from your ex's garnished paychecks.
Act like an adult. Do not bad mouth the other parent in front of the children. Just say ';no'; to the laptop and move on. Tell the kid you can't afford the laptop or want to wait for a better deal.
Put him in jail.The child will get past it.My Father never paid child support and sold things that belonged to me all the way into my teen years.He even took my first truck and sold it.Some people shouldn't be parents.Good luck.
So he wants to sell the child a laptop...where is the problem? If the child wants a laptop so badly the child should earn the money to purchase it. So what's the problem?
don't say anything negative in front of the kids,so meet him in a park and say what you have to say
beat the crap out of him privately then say nice things about him in front of the kids.





he's too much for words.
Sounds like a real winner luv, Kids are going to be hurt regardless