How can I deal with an ex who is harassing me?

I have an ex who is harassing me. I really don't want to get the police involved because the attention he gets from that will more than likely satisfy him because we will have to go to court and he will get to see me.





I have changed my phone number and have ignored all his phone calls, text messages, ims for the past year. We were together for 5 years but he is still not over me. I told him that I would get the police involved and file for harassment, but he is not doing or saying anything physically dangerous. He told me to go ahead and do it. In connecticut, he would only get a class c misdimeanor and getting a chance to be involved with me would be worth it to him.





I have no idea what to do. I can't move. I have a good job. He texts me like 20 times a day and calls me at least 10 times a day. I never pick up. This has been going on for over a year and we've been apart for 2.5 years. I just want him to leave me alone.How can I deal with an ex who is harassing me?
Hi. I feel for your. I got to be honest - everyone elses response(s) make perfect sense ...but this is what I suggest.





Get a strong divorce family attorney to represent you. Someone who can guide you on what to do next; someone who can stand in for you in court and represent you if you feel uncomfortable; someone who understands the system and can work with you to obtain your goal - getting them to stop!





They can do a lot of things that you can't on your own. They can help you obtain financial damages; work to get them arrested at his work (most embarassing, etc.) . They know the system - where we don't





My family/divorce attorney was Sherly Berman - I recommend that you give her a call - at the very least to discuss your options and strategy moving forward. She works only in family law - and will know exactly what to do. Her # is 203.887-7813 and her email is sberman@kahnandstark.com





She's great!





Consider Getting EXPERT Opinion on this if you truly want this to stop.How can I deal with an ex who is harassing me?
Get one of those doctors who help with dealing problems. That's really scary. I would block him on aim or w/e it is you have that he is IMing you on. My ex would curse at me which is verbal abuse. Not as bad as this though.
i kinda feel bad for the guy i did the same thing for like a month then realized i was just making it worse and looking stupid. idk what i would do at least you arent him and feeling that depressed 5 yrs is a long time you gotta understand that he is probally in shock or somethin. but what he is doing is not right
I don't know if the police there will do this, but when I was divorcing my ex did this too. I had the cops just talk to him and tell him to knock it off or there would be charges. He took that seriously without getting any sort of record. But make sure the cops are willing to talk to him only if you don't want him to have a record of harassment. If he keeps it up he may anyway. He needs to grow up and take rejection like the rest of us.
Sue him for emotional distress. Get him where it'll hurt him the most-- his wallet.
ok he is crazy. try getting a restraining order or something. im pretty sure there's some law or something that will prohibit him from texting you or calling you or someting. ONE YEAR. thats a long time. GEt the police involved i would say..
you need to get the police involved and get it on record it could get dangerous it seems like he is not gonna stop GET THE POLICE INVOLVED
dig your key into the side of his pretty little suped up 4 wheel drive, carve your name into his leather seat, take a louisville slugger to both head lights, slash a hole in all 4 tires, maybe next time he'll think before he contacts you. Just kidding thats a song. Honestly I don't know what I would do, he obviously has a problem, maybe you can get a restraining order to where he can't contact you, or get within like 100 feet of you. Contact your lawyer if you have one, or get in contact with a lawyer to see if you can go to court with a restraining order.





Hope this helps!
You need to handle the situation your self.


1) Invite him over for breakfast


2) Cook grits on the stove as in the directions


3) While he sitting down admiring you or whatever take pot of grits and throw it on him


4) grab skillet that is big but easy to handle and hit him upside the head and send him a message
HOnestly...I think you are liking all the attention that he is giving you. He has been harrassing you for a yr? Come on, anyone who is truly affected by this would have gone to the authorities not yahooanswers
You can keep pressing charges against him until it becomes a felony and you can demand that if he doesn't stop contacting you are stop getting near your place, that you will sue the department for not doing their job.