How do you deal with an ex that is trying to push his new girlfriend into your kids life?

my ex is not a real big part of my kids lifes and every time that they ask him to do something he says he can only do it if his new girlfriend can be there.I think he should be a part of their lifes before he tries to involve her.He cant seem to understand that..i do i make him understand that?How do you deal with an ex that is trying to push his new girlfriend into your kids life?
Sexy has a good point. The reason has something to do with an insecurity of some kind. Hmmm, some of your answers here were a bit defensive! Suspiciously defensive too.





Anyway. If he is serious about her aI can understand his wanting them to get to know her. Some men as with a friend of mines x, just try to get a bond there and make the GF a care giver. Sucks.





What is being missed is prioritising what the kids need most. A good parent will make sacrefices or at least comprimises to help their kids with these transitions. One of your answers here was incredibly insensitive to the kids never mind you!





Kids go theorugh a lot and these changes are just as much about their lives as his or yours.





Some people push the new spouse for other reasons too. To create jelously, to show that you won't be getting back together, FEAR, insensitivity, ignorance...men and women both do this! You need to talk to him and make sure these issues are out of the way. Get a mediater. They can be very helpful and if they are really good, leave both of you feeling a lot better.





Good luck and take a deep breath!How do you deal with an ex that is trying to push his new girlfriend into your kids life?
Sorry, your ex has found a girlfriend and of course your kids will be hanging with her too. You can't control his life through them. I'm not trying to be mean when I ask are you jealous? Maybe your afraid your kids will find this new lady to be cool. It's perfectly normal, they get to do all the fun things and you have to be everything else... the disciplinary, the one who makes them do their homework, etc. Just try to get along, your the one who picked him, it will make it that much easier for the kids and that's what's important here!!
Why do you have a problem with his new girlfriend? He's in a new relationship and wants to spend time with her, but he's also trying to be a responsible father by wanting to spend time with his kids. Is there a reason why she can't join him in seeing the kids? If she is abusive, I can understand that. But if it is just because you don't want her there, that's really not your decision.


Have you tried talking to him about this? Why not suggest that he take the kids out one or two times by himself so he can tell them about his new girlfriend before they meet her. That way he can sort of prepare them a bit for their first real meeting.


Good luck.
I think because he is not in their lives very much he is actually afraid to be with them alone, which is why he always wants the new girlfriend there. Maybe you should try being with him when he visits with the children , it may make him feel more comfortable and maybe just maybe he will leave the girlfriend at home, otherwise the children may not want to be around him at all.
WHY DON'T YOU SUGGEST HE PICK THE KIDS UP FIRST AND SPEND AN HOUR WITH THEM ALONE THEN PICK UP THE GF.
If he's the father make him pay child support he won't be so damn anxious to push anything. If he's not??? That's why they call them ex's. Leave him alone unless your a glutton for punishment. Guess what he's not the one that doesn't understand.
sorry its not up to you to decide who your ex involves in the kids lives. HE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO HAVE HIS GF THERE.





they are his kids also.
As long as the new g/f isn't a danger to the kids it shouldn't matter if she's there. If he wants to spend time with his kids then he can do it however he wants as long as their safety comes first.