How do I deal with an ex-boyfriend I still love when he only wants to be friends?

I was with my ex for 3 yrs we were living together for 2 yrs. I loved him and we had both talk about marriage and spending the rest of our lives together. He started hitting on other girls %26amp; going out %26amp; not wanting me to go with him. He went out one night %26amp; when I asked him what he did he told me he went out to a bar to play pool with one of the guys. A few days later he started recieving a lot of text messages %26amp; would not tell me who they were from. SO when he took a shower I look at his phone %26amp; they were from a girl who he had never mentioned before. They were about how they should get together again %26amp; how she really liked him. When I confronted him he said he forgot to mention her but he met here the other night at the bar, he said she knew all about me and he was just looking for a friend in her. I snapped %26amp; kicked him out and broke up with him. I still Love him but he wants to be friends. What should I do? I don't think I can be just friends b/c I want him back but can I trust himHow do I deal with an ex-boyfriend I still love when he only wants to be friends?
I was in the same situation with my ex. It never works out because you start be get jealous over little things. He will get mad and it will lead to big arguments. A relationship with out trust never works.





On the friend situation if you are any thing like me, you will not want to become friends, you will get jealous when he talks about other girls. You will not want to hear that he is happy because you will only want him to be happy with you. Its not worth you working you self up.





What I think is you should let the whole situation go. All it will do is cause you unwanted stress. This will only make you depressed.





I have question for you. Do you really want to walk around depressed all the time?





I know if you love him it hard to let go but in the long run it will be for the best thing for both of you.How do I deal with an ex-boyfriend I still love when he only wants to be friends?
It's painful but you have to cut all ties with him and not communicate with him until you can get over him and truly be JUST FRIENDS with him. It will most likely take years, or never. You are fooling yourself in thinking you can remain friend with him and not have feelings for him, you are only hurting yourself.
Get this... You did the right thing, he was cheating on you and looking for someone else.





You just need to break it off clean and not talk with him at all, it's all over, but the feelings linger awhile.
You snuck through his phone behind his back.....and found out another chick said she really liked him and they should go out again? Maybe you should confront him about it instead of being ninja *****. You were with him for 3 years...and over something like this you kick him out and dump his ***? Overreacting much? You should've been calm instead of all Bipolar and talked about this. Find out if they were just friends....or more than friends....or are you too jealous for him to have a friend of the opposite sex?





Jealousy + Distrust + Bipolar + No communication =Failed relationship.





You two were bound for failure from the beginning.
If thats how you felt the last time you guys had a relation and its was based on lies and mistrust then i would say screw it get over it its NOT going to be worth it!!
It seems pretty clear that a monogamus relationship is not something that he can handle right now nor does he want to. I think this something that you're just going to have to deal with. It will be hard but you will get over it. If he's saying he just wants to be friends then that's your biggest sign to let him go. I know you love but please don't cling to him it will only things worse for you in the long run. There are plenty of guys out there that can give you what you want right now, don't wait for him.
Move on to the next guy in line.


There always is a next.


Just move on and you will see.
move on there's probably someone better for you
Find someone else. Find yourself. Spend some time with the girlfriends you ignored while wasting your time on this jerk.
You don't need him back because from what I understand, it seemed as if he wasn't intersted in the relationship any more after a while. Don't put yourslef in a postion to get hurt again. I think y'all could be friens though, just don't try to rush back into a relationship.





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i would not trust him agian!!!!!!
he doesn't want to be with you. stand your ground he's no good. go get a makeover and start feeling good about yourself by getting in killer shape. take a month off of boys and enjoy your free time. it will hurt but move on to someone who doesn't ';forget'; about girls he meets
how will you be able to trust him, it will always be in the back of your mind. When he goes out you will be worrying what he is doing. Give it time he made his bed let him lye in it.